They announced their separation and subsequent divorce petitions on Sunday after seven-years of marriage.
But Kristen Cavallari’s split with former Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler is not motivated by infidelity despite repeated claims of an affair with another woman, TMZ reports.
It’s understood that the true nature of their ongoing dispute involves custody of their three children – Camden, seven, Jaxon, five, and Saylor, four – following perceived ‘inaccuracies’ in Cutler’s divorce filing.
All over: Kristen Cavallari’s split with former Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler is not motivated by infidelity despite repeated claims of an affair with another woman, according to reports
The publication claims Cavallari, 33, was stunned after her estranged husband, 36, described himself as an ‘at home parent’ and their children’s ‘primary carer’ while demanding shared custody.
The TV personality, who insists it was she who acted as chief carer throughout their marriage, has since demanded full custody of the children, with Cutler’s contact reduced to visitation.
In divorce papers filed at a Nashville court on April 7th, Cavallari claimed Cutler was ‘guilty of such inappropriate marital conduct as renders further cohabitation unsafe and improper,’ according to TMZ.
Custody battle: It’s understood that the true nature of their ongoing dispute involves custody of their three children following perceived ‘inaccuracies’ in Cutler’s divorce filing
In addition, Cavallari claimed he insinuated misconduct on her part, adding: ‘Any misconduct alleged or implied against her in the complaint for divorce was in response to and/or as a result of misconduct on behalf of her Husband.’
Tennessee law demands any individual requesting a divorce must illustrate fault on the part of their husband or wife, with neither party unable to end the marriage without proving any alleged misconduct.
Insiders previously claimed the former couple had accused each other of infidelity and had an ‘antagonistic’ relationship.
A source told Us Weekly: ‘The word around Nashville is they really just don’t like each other anymore.
Tough times: Cavallari and Cutler announced their separation and subsequent divorce petitions on Sunday after seven-years of marriage
‘They would accuse each other of cheating, but nothing really solid. They are both very stubborn and bump heads a lot and neither backs down.’
The source added: ‘Kristin and Jay always seemed annoyed with each other and they were only on the same side when it came to their kids.
‘Their personal relationship became antagonistic and it was better for their whole family to divorce.’
Just two days after filing for divorce, Cavallari broke the news on her Instagram – as well as removing the word ‘wife’ off of her bio.
The entrepreneur, who was married to Cutler for seven years, now just has ‘Momma’ and ‘Founder + CEO’ of her companies Uncommon James and Little James clothing.
The latest: Cavallari announced her split from Cutler on Sunday and removed the word ‘wife’ from her Instagram bio soon after
Happier times: The 33-year-old entrepreneur, who was married to Cutler for seven years, now just has ‘Momma’ and ‘Founder + CEO’ of her companies Uncommon James and Little James clothing
Cavallari added that she’s a ‘2x @nytimes Bestselling Author,’ adding that her newest cookbook True Comfort is out September.
The mother of three also listed @verycavallari, which is her and Jay’s reality show on E!.
The updated biography on her social media page comes just one day after she shared a snap of her and Jay walking down a street with their arms around each other.
The image featured a lengthy caption announcing their split.
Done: The updated biography on her social media page comes just one day after she shared a snap of her and Jay walking down a street with their arms around each other
In the caption, she confirmed: ‘With great sadness, after 10 years together we have come to a loving conclusion to get a divorce.
‘We have nothing but love and respect for one another and are deeply grateful for the years shared, memories made, and the children we are so proud of.
‘This is just the situation of two people growing apart. We ask everyone to respect or privacy as we navigate this difficult time within our family.’
However, as of Monday afternoon, Cavallari’s Twitter page still had wife included in the bio.
Interesting: However, as of Monday afternoon, Cavallari’s Twitter page still had wife included in the bio
Her date of separation, April 7, interestingly enough is the day she and Jay got back to Nashville after they were stuck in the Bahamas for three weeks, Us Weekly reported.
Cutler didn’t note any ‘misconduct’ in his divorce filings and listed their separation date as April 21 with a request for joint custody of their children.
Cavallari wants primary physical custody of their three kids, child support, and for her estranged husband to pay for their health insurance.
She claimed that Cutler wasn’t available as a father to their kids in her filing, which he denied in his filing.
She had in her papers: ‘She denies that Husband has always been the available at home parent and primary caretaker of the parties’ minor children. Wife would show that she had been the primary residential parent.’
She is also asking for Cutler to maintain a life insurance policy with her listed as the sole beneficiary.
Cutler said in his filing: ‘Husband has always been the available at-home parent and the primary caretaker of the parties minor children.’
The way they were: Cavallari has alleged ‘misconduct’ by estranged husband Cutler in the legal documents, according to TMZ
In March they went on holiday to the Bahamas with their three children, her hair stylist pal Justin Anderson and his fiance Austin ‘Scoot’ Rhodes.
They weren’t able to fly back and ended up staying three weeks.
However, the duo already planned on splitting prior to their trip, according to People.
‘On their recent trip, they already knew they were splitting up. Kristin and Jay had been having problems for a long time. They hadn’t spent much time together in recent months,’ their source revealed.
People’s source claimed that Kristin’s busy career and differing priorities led to their split: ‘Kristin and Jay are a lot different. She has so much on her plate, with her brands and with her show, and Jay is not as interested in all of that.
‘She’s so passionate about her work and they couldn’t relate to each other. So it pulled them apart.’
Filing: Cavallari wants primary physical custody of their three kids, child support, and for Jay to pay for their health insurance
During the last season of their reality show Very Cavallari, Cavallari and her former best friend Kelly Henderson had a falling out after speculation that she and Jay were allegedly having an affair.
The former MTV reality star said she didn’t believe the affair accusations ‘not for one second’, but was opposed to how Kelly reacted to it.
Cavallari believed the Velvet’s Edge blogger added ‘fuel to the fire’ by bringing up Cutler on Twitter and felt she ‘was using Jay for her own personal gain.’
‘If I was accused of having an affair with your husband, I wouldn’t say his f***ing name on social media. Like, come on,’ she complained to friends Justin Anderson and Stephanie ‘Biegs’ Biegel on the show.
Drama: During the last season of their reality show Very Cavallari, Cavallari and her former best friend Kelly Henderson had a falling out after speculation that she and Cutler were allegedly having an affair
Cavallari had said on the show: ‘Instead of her just owning her side of it and being like, “I’m sorry! Oh my God, that was never my intention,” or whatever, she kept giving me push back and would get really defensive. And then she literally stopped responding to me.’
In addition, the star claimed that Kelly ‘never once’ said sorry over the escalation of the situation with the last interaction an olive branch from Cavallari to her.
The reality star says she had written to Kelly: ‘I miss you and this has been absolutely killing me. I’m sorry, I know I’m tough when I’m hurt. I love you and we need to fix this.’
After Kelly never responded, Cavallari said it was ‘the final straw in their friendship.’
Cavallari and Cutler met in 2010 and dated for 10 months before he proposed to her in April 2011; they called off their engagement in July but reunited five months later.
They tied the knot on June 8, 2013 in Nashville, Tennessee.